20220331 : oxymoron

I don't usually follow groups and comments online. I mostly can't - since I don't access any social media sites.

Once in a while, I get some click through links from somewhere and I end up reading/ browsing or someone shares something on the group I am on and get to read.

I feel the highest rated - like the top oxymoron of the 21st century is "I know how you are feeling". Or a step further "I know exactly how you are feeling".

The thing is - nobody can feel exactly how anybody is feeling. Some folks - like minded, similar situations may be able to relate better, but cannot feel (and think) how someone else feels and thinks. 

If they have to feel and think the same way, they have to be that person - not sufficient to wear their shoes and imagine.

So, by extension, if someone/ anyone is doing something for me, it it the based on what they think and feel and act in the best way accordingly. 

If I expect something else, there will be a gap. 

The gap is created by me, not by them.

So it is best to not expect others to feel my way and act accordingly. It is best to recognise that everyone is doing the best according to their feelings and thoughts and it becomes easier to have an accepting mind.

And by extension, it is wrong (quite silly) to expect anyone to understand my actions and choices which I have made based on my feelings and thoughts.

It is for me to understand my feelings, the choices, the implications and act according to them and do the next best thing to do based on my feelings and thoughts.

After I have acted (it could turn out this way or that), I have to accept the consequences entirely of my choices and actions and move on....