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20240206 : Five ...

When someone goes through a life transforming event like a stroke, they are a completely different person afterwards. In that sense rhe previous person dies that instance and a new person is also born that instance. Others rarely notice or appreciate this death & birth transformation as its not a physical thing but a mental death and rebirth.  In that sense, I am 5 today!  Born on 6th Feb 2019! When I had the stroke, after I could think properly (maybe 6-7 after weeks), also fuelled by the assurances by everyone around that it's only a matter of 6 months or so, I came up with a 5 year plan in my mind. I bitterly realised soon that planning and such things are out of the window for good. About 6 months later, till about a year and ½, it took a lot to accept the reality and get adjusted to the reality that the previous me was indeed dead. Also, the frame of mind was that I was only dead still and there was no recognition of the rebirth (as I couldn't do anything, couldn't

20231128: My very reliable memory

I keep reminding and following up on many things with everybody I ask for something. To the point of frustration and getting upset with me (although everyone is polite and thank me for it 🙂). I can certainly imagine how irritating it must be. I do it simply because of my own experience. Everybody has a huge pile of things to do everyday and they keep adding to the pile and many many things get forgotten or slips down in priority and I only try to bring back things to the top of the pile. Obviously I have a great memory to be able to do this consistently with many people on many fronts. So what is the secret to my good memory? I wish it was some glamorous thing like that and I could tell you my diet for the reliable memory. The reality is, I had a massive stroke years ago and my memory is worse than anyone who I know. Definitely much worse than myself before my stroke. So what is the secret behind it? The secret is knowing I have a very poor and unreliable memory - and accepting it ful